With Children but Not by Choice

This is a follow on to my previous post about being childless by choice. Here are some of the reasons why people may have children when they didn’t want to (again, I’m sure there are more and these are not mutually exclusive): Ignorance No sex education Lack of general education Not knowing you can sayContinue reading “With Children but Not by Choice”

Childless by Choice

I’ve been glad to see that there is some media discussion about people that choose not to have children. The pressure to have children is another example of the relationship escalator that is captured in the classic Kissing song: “First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes baby in the baby carriage.” But not everyoneContinue reading “Childless by Choice”

Polyamory, the relationship escalator, and Dear Abby

I read the Eugene Register Guard newspaper most mornings. This, of course, includes the comics. On the page facing the comics is the Dear Abby column (no longer written by Abby). I didn’t really pay attention to it, maybe reading it once in a great while. But, when BdiJ stays over, she sometimes looks atContinue reading “Polyamory, the relationship escalator, and Dear Abby”

Ask culture vs. guess culture

This came to my attention from BdiJ. The following was an easy cut and paste way for me to provide the basic concept (from The Atlantic): Let’s say your husband or wife has a friend who will be coming to your city for two weeks on business. This friend writes to you and your spouse,Continue reading “Ask culture vs. guess culture”